Tantra and The Pursuit Of Happiness

Tue 20 December 2016

“That is happiness; to be dissolved into something absolutely great.”

– Willa Cather (American novelist)


There is a certain something that everyone wants, consciously or unconsciously. every soul has an eventual goal, whether the soul knows it or not. yet, this goal does not get the kind of importance it deserves. few comprehend it, even fewer know how to go about getting it – happiness.

When people are asked what happiness means to them, they hum and haw a while before responding with something like money, a bigger house, a sexy wife, an influential husband, the latest sports car, more parties, more drinking…. these things seem to define happiness to the average person.

In the motion of happiness, people race – against time, against the Jones, against life itself. Does happiness really mean partying all night, every night and blowing up pots of money on designer clothing?

Ancient tantra says that happiness is a say of mind – that you can be happy no matter what your situation in life is – if you choose to be happy. Happiness does not come to you – you can call upon it whenever you choose to. You have to make it happen. those who believe otherwise have granted society, peer pressure or their own misgivings to delude them.

Happiness has nothing to do with what you own, which belief you follow or which community or country you are from – or, for that matter, with whether you believe in God or not. You are responsible for your actions and you choose to be anything you want.

As Charles Schulz, the creator of the favourite Peanuts comic strip, said, “My life has no purpose, no direction, no aim, no meaning, and yet I’m happy. I can’t figure it out. what am I doing right?”

Being happy is a continuous process. it does not stay with you if you do not maintain it, but you need not run after more money, celebrations or sex to get it. true, the scriptures of ancient tantra reveal that sexual pleasure is the highest form of pleasure that can be reached in the tangible, material world that we know of today. it is the last bastion of happiness for the earthlike body. nevertheless, continuous sex without the right kind of awareness and expertise will severely damage one’s psyche… maybe even to the extent of lunacy. The mind is far more expansive than the body; while the mind hungers for more, the body can’t keep up.

Tantric sex demands that the mind have the right level of consciousness. unfortunately, this day everyone has lost sight of that fact. Most have mistakenly identified frequent sex with happiness, whether it is meaningful or not. Society has become more permissive, and sex has become e a commodity without value. Today, sex is an empty promise.

Attraction is an inescapable fact of life. A beautiful flower, a beautiful landscape, a beautiful sunset, a beautiful man or woman – each evokes attraction. when we chart this attraction to its essential core, we are pursuing real happiness.